Teach your Child to Avoid Conflicts

It is very normal for children to collide, just as it is normal for adults to collide.

Nil Lenon
9 min readMay 8, 2021


Conflict is a way for a child to show that he or she disagrees with a condition or situation and that he or she wants something to change. As a reaction, conflict is desirable because it shows that the child has an opinion, that he has his own choices, and that he claims them. Claiming is an important skill in the life of the individual so that he strives to protect himself and his rights, as well as to gain what he considers to belong to him in life.

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When are conflicts negative?

Conflicts are considered negative when they occur in an unacceptable social way, when they violate the rights of others or when they endanger the individual. That is, when they manifest themselves through the use of physical, verbal, or psychological violence and when the goal concerns the unreasonable claiming of demands. If, for example, the child demands to watch TV for much longer than the parent considers permissible for his age and to achieve this, he starts throwing or breaking objects, or hitting. Other examples are cases where the child insists on becoming his own without the desire for compromise, when he curses or threatens, when he holds hands with other children, when he stubbornly refuses to cooperate and when he is strongly disobedient.

Who does the child usually clash with?

With anyone, he is, in his view, on the opposite bank and does not give him what he wants. This person is usually the parent who is expected to control and decide whether or not to provide what the child requires. In a similar way, the child is likely to conflict with any other adult who has some form of control or authority over him or her, or with other children claiming the same things.

From where the child learns the way and the reason of conflict

How the child collides and the reasons why he will collide, like all behaviors, is first learned from the environment, ie from the people around him and guide him with verbal or non-verbal instructions, as well as their example. . More specifically, the child watches the way…



Nil Lenon

A software specialist during the day and a side hustler during night. Writing about code, IT products, personal development and career tips.